Posted by: katedaphne | November 20, 2008

Goodbye my sweet Olivia

This is a very hard post to write. One reason I’ve been AWOL the last few days is because my little kitty Olivia passed away this weekend. She’s the one who had cancer. She fought so hard and enjoyed every moment she could. I knew this was going to happen but it has still sucked big time. I miss her so much.

















I have an  embarrassment of fur in this house — two other cats and two other dogs. All of whom I ADORE. But when we are all home in the evenings, everyone curled up in their favorite cushy spot — there’s someone missing. One spot is empty. It is horrible.

I got Olivia, and her sister Daphne, when they were eight weeks old. They were my first pets that were all mine, after I’d moved out of my parents’ home and was on my own. I consider myself a dog person really, but I did not have the space or the time to care for a dog and I wanted some sweet, furry living things to share my space with me. And I wanted two, so they could amuse each other while I was out. We called them “The Kindle,” as that is the name for a group of kittens (you know, like pride of lions or pod of whales). That was nearly 15 years ago.

Now the Kindle is no more. Things will not be the same around here. Goodbye sweet kitty.

This feels extra hard because my pets have been such a solace for me through my IF struggle. They have always been there, with their cold noses and warm hearts. And when humans insist on saying all the wrong things and making everything worse, my pets have just curled up with me and purred and licked my face and hands. They’ve always been there for me.

If this cycle freaking works, my life will change a lot and I’ll have much more work to do and more responsibilities, but I have decided I am never going to short-change the animals or down-grade them in status as so many new parents do. I don’t judge them, I get that having a baby is different than having a cat or dog. But no one else has been there for me like these creatures have, and I am never going to forget that.

And I’ll never forget Olivia either.




Thanks to all of you who found me via Geohde’s Blog of the Week. I liked the way she summed me up — in the trenches, taking heavy fire. It definitely feels like a war zone around here. But come on down, I’ll cover you.


The DE cycle is continuing. I go in tomorrow for another E2 draw. Fun fun. And I got the last of my pre-cycle testing done this week (pap, cultures). Let me just say, after three years of REs, your lady bits get a little spoiled. I had my local GP do the pap, and DANG was that uncomfortable! Decent guy, he just doesn’t have the practice our specialists have!!!

We fly north next week.



  1. I’m so sorry about the loss of your dear girl. Pets are family. She gave you 15 years of much-deserved love.

    Next week…oh man. I’m excited for you.


  2. Aw, I’m sorry. She was a part of your family and of course you’re grieving.

  3. I’m so sorry. I resolve to never downgrade pets the way so many new parents do too. It’s tragic to lose an animal. Animals are family too.

  4. I am so sorry for the loss of Olivia. i remember when my own beloved cat died- it was awful,



  5. I’m sorry. She was such a lovely looking girl too. Wishing you comfort.

  6. I am so sorry for your loss of Olivia. She was a beautiful cat. Thinking of you.

  7. Thinking of you as you grieve the loss of your special kitty friend Olivia and prayers that your upcoming cycle goes well.

  8. I’m so sorry. Rest in peace sweet Olivia.

  9. So sorry for the loss of your kitty. It sounds like she had a wonderful life with you. It’s always to hard to lose such a good friend.

  10. I am so very sorry for your loss…

  11. I don’t know if you remember but a long time ago, on one of the message boards I PM’ed you about how much Daphne looks like one of my kitties. I love my kitties tremendously as well. And one of mine (the non-Daphne-look-alike) was my first kitty when I moved into my first apartment too. And yes, when I cry, she comes and sits on my lap and loves me. Quietly and patiently and thoroughly. She has been my constant companion throughout my “adult” life – around for longer than my husband even. I will be crushed the day she leaves me. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I empathize with you.

    Also, I wanted to let you know that your last post REALLY resonated with me. You are a wise woman. Throughout this battle with IF, I have, too many times, expected something more or different from those around me than what they were giving. (FYI I didn’t comment on that post itself b/c I sent a link for it to my SIL – whom I don’t get along with so great – and I didn’t want to chance that she might check the comments and follow my name to my blog and recognize me.)

  12. Ah, shit. I’m so, so sorry. She was such a beautiful girl, and well loved.

    We had a sweet little girl schnauzer who we had to put down after an extended illness (renal insufficiency), and even though you know it’s coming, it still turns you inside out. Still does, and it was 5 years ago. It’s never easy, and it always, always sucks.

    Congrats on finishing up the trial run! I know you (and your lady) are relieved!!

  13. Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry about Olivia.

  14. Oh, I’m sorry Kate. If life was fair, our pets would live longer. Of course, if life was fair, we wouldn’t need IVF either.

    Wishing you the best of success on this IVF cycle.

  15. Kate,
    I am so sorry about the passing of sweet Olivia. You are in my thoughts and my heart. All the love and luck in the world to you for this cycle.

  16. Awww, poor little Olivia. I, too, have a kitty I adopted at 7 weeks when I lived alone in my first ever single-living apartment…she is now 12 years old and starting to slow down. It’s funny how you can sometimes take cats for granted when dogs come along…but still take comfort in knowing they are always there. I’m sure she knew how much you loved her.

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